Pauline Spender-Clay (née Astor; 24 September 1880 – 5 April 1972) was an American-English socialite known for her hospitality; her gardening, especially the cultivation of lilies; and her portrait painted by John Singer Sargent. Like many American heiresses, her engagements were a subject of speculation before her marriage. She volunteered as a nurse in World War I and opened up her house, Ford Manor, to be used as a military hospital in both World Wars. She was a member of the Astor family.
Early life
editShe was born Pauline Astor in New York in 24 September 1880 to politician William Waldorf Astor and his wife Mary, née Dalgren. The family moved to London in 1891 and purchased the manor of Cliveden in 1893. In 1894, Pauline’s mother died, leaving her mistress of the estate.[1]
Sargent painted Pauline with her pet King Charles spaniel, Mossie, in 1888 – 9.[2]
About 1900, Henry Innes-Ker, 8th Duke of Roxburghe sought Pauline’s hand in marriage, and they were rumoured to be engaged,[3] but Pauline 'gave him no encouragement'[4] and Roxburghe could not agree with her father about her dowry.[5] He became engaged to Mary Goelet three years later.[citation needed]
On 20 October 1904, Pauline married Lieutenant-Colonel Herbert H. Spender-Clay, wealthy heir to the Bass Brewing Company,[6] and they settled at Ford Manor, Lingfield, where they became known for hosting parties. A son of Ettie Grenfell described Pauline as 'the most fascinating creature alive, with those sad enormous brown eyes.'[7] They had three daughters: Phyllis Mary, Rachel Pauline, and Sybil Gwendoline, who died in infancy.[citation needed]
World War I
editDuring World War I, Pauline served as a Voluntary Aid Detachment nurse, and opened up Ford Manor to convalescing American soldiers, as her sister-in-law Nancy Astor was doing at Cliveden.[1][8]
Inter-war gardening and public service
editIn the 1920s and 1930s, Pauline was the main contributor to the gardens at Ford Manor, installing a water garden and arboretum.[8] According to her daughter, 'lilies were her love,'[9] and The Lily Year Book reported that she 'made a very real contribution to the growing of lilies in this country.'[10]
She was Justice of the Peace for Sussex in 1920[11] and was involved with Girl Scouts and Doormice Patrols.[1]
World War II and later life
editDuring World War II, Ford Manor was used as a nursery school for evacuees from London, and later as a hospital for Canadian soldiers. Widowed since 1937, Pauline made efforts to insure her properties and art from the instability of war.[1] She had a new house, also called Ford Manor, built for herself on her grounds. The original house's name was changed to Greathed Manor in 1960.[9]
References
edit- ^ a b c d "archives.nypl.org -- Pauline Astor papers". archives.nypl.org. Retrieved 28 April 2024.
- ^ "A Sargent Celebration at the Huntington". www.tfaoi.org. Retrieved 28 April 2024.
- ^ "PAULINE ASTOR TO WED A DUKE.; Daughter of William Waldorf Astor Engaged to the Duke of Roxburghe". The New York Times. 2 February 1901. ISSN 0362-4331. Retrieved 28 April 2024.
- ^ San Francisco Daily Times. Conklin & Haskin. 1903. p. 14.
- ^ Montgomery, Maureen E. (6 August 2013). 'Gilded Prostitution': Status, Money and Transatlantic Marriages, 1870-1914. Routledge. ISBN 978-1-136-21494-3.
- ^ "MISS PAULINE ASTOR ENGAGED.; To Marry Capt. Spender Clay, One of the Richest Commoners in England". The New York Times. 15 July 1904. Retrieved 21 January 2022.
- ^ Fort, Adrian (11 October 2012). Nancy: The Story of Lady Astor. Random House. p. 128. ISBN 978-1-4090-2858-1.
- ^ a b Steer, Gary (2008). "The Clay family of Ford Manor" (PDF). The RH7 History Group.
- ^ a b "GREATHED MANOR, Dormansland - 1000272 | Historic England". historicengland.org.uk. Retrieved 28 April 2024.
- ^ Royal Horticultural Society (1963). The Lily Year Book. Royal Horticultural Society. p. 9.
- ^ Mosley, Charles, ed. (1999). Burke's Peerage and Baronetage (106 ed.). p. 131.