Cutting off one's nose to spite one's face
"Cutting off one's nose to spite one's face" is an expression used to describe a needlessly self-destructive overreaction to a problem: "Don't cut off your nose to spite your face" is a warning against acting out of pique, or against pursuing revenge in a way that would damage oneself more than the object of one's anger.[1]
Origins
editIt was not uncommon in the Middle Ages for a person to cut off the nose of another for various reasons, including punishment from the state, or as an act of revenge.[2]
The expression has since become a blanket term for (often unwise) self-destructive actions motivated purely by anger or desire for revenge. For example, if a man was angered by his wife, he might burn down their house to punish her; however, burning down her house would also mean burning down his, along with all of their possessions.
In the 1796 edition of Francis Grose's Classical Dictionary of the Vulgar Tongue, "He cut off his nose to be revenged of his face" is said to apply to "one who, to be revenged on his neighbor, has materially injured himself."[3]
In contradistinction to the above, Saint Ebbe, Abbess of Coldingham Priory in south-east Scotland, and her nuns, who are reported to have severed their own noses and upper lips, were not motivated by anger or revenge, but desperately tried to save their integrity by grossly disfiguring themselves to the point of becoming unattractive as targets of rape to the invading Viking raiders.
See also
edit- Appeal to spite
- Inequity aversion
- Rhinectomy, the removal of the nose
- To bomb Voronezh, an analogous Russian language idiom
References
edit- ^ The Phrase Finder definition
- ^ Groebner, V. "Losing face, saving face: Noses and honor in the late medieval town." History Workshop Journal, 40, 1-15.
- ^ Tréguer, Pascal (2017-08-23). "origin of 'to cut off one's nose to spite one's face'". word histories. Retrieved 2021-07-15.